"Well, we do piss each other off occasionally, but I suppose I love him too much to let things like arguements get to me too much."
"Hmmm...I don't understand the concept of a relationship."
After this mini-conversation with someone, I got into thinking about the concept of relationships. I mean at first I couldn't understand how someone couldn't get the idea of a relationship. Then I thought about all the players, whores and people that just don't have a clue about the function of a relationship. So then I got into thinking, how would you explain what a relationship is?
My answer was something along the lines of "A relationship is a really close friendship in which you can talk in confidence and trust the other person, but with certain 'advantages' as it were, and also maybe a bit of love mixed in if you are at that stage."
However I've been thinking even more into it and what you would class as a relationship. And by the way I mean relationship as in boyfriend and girlfriend not just friends. Since from what i described it sounds just like friends with benefits. So I think you'd have to include some kind of commitment in the explanation too. However one person in a relationship may have a higher commitment than the other, which is where cheating comes into play.
And how 'active' do you have to be with someone for it to be classed as a relationship? I mean are you in a relationship when you're going out on dates? Or do you have to wait for holding hands and hugging? But then people do that with their friends, I mean hell, I kiss most of my friends, does that mean I'm in a mass open relationship? No, it doesn't. So does that conclude you have to have some kind of sexual contact? Or can you be in a relationship with just emotional attachment?
Then I found this thing on the interweb that said 60% of people wouldn't be dating the person they're with if they had the choice. I mean I was joking in my head at the idea of trading my boyfriend for the young patrick swayse because of his ultimate fitness and amazing hands, but I know I never could because in my heart I wouldn't trade him for anyone. (P.S. that's us in the piccy.)
So all of this has left me quite confuzzled about relationships, I guess in some ways I can only compare to 'relationships' I've had and who i would class as I dated them. I mean there was Ryan who cheated on me, but he asked me out over phone and the next time I saw him I ended it. So I wouldn't class him as a relationship. I wouldn't class Liam as a relationship when I was 11 and he got all creepy, but I had no emotional attachment to him, nor did we do anything, I don't think I even hugged him.
However Tom, Chris, another Ryan and Paul (my current boyfriend) I would say that I had a relationship with all of them. However some were more important than others, I am still no way near defining what a relationship is clear enough. I guess relationships are just complicated.
And how 'active' do you have to be with someone for it to be classed as a relationship? I mean are you in a relationship when you're going out on dates? Or do you have to wait for holding hands and hugging? But then people do that with their friends, I mean hell, I kiss most of my friends, does that mean I'm in a mass open relationship? No, it doesn't. So does that conclude you have to have some kind of sexual contact? Or can you be in a relationship with just emotional attachment?
Then I found this thing on the interweb that said 60% of people wouldn't be dating the person they're with if they had the choice. I mean I was joking in my head at the idea of trading my boyfriend for the young patrick swayse because of his ultimate fitness and amazing hands, but I know I never could because in my heart I wouldn't trade him for anyone. (P.S. that's us in the piccy.)
So all of this has left me quite confuzzled about relationships, I guess in some ways I can only compare to 'relationships' I've had and who i would class as I dated them. I mean there was Ryan who cheated on me, but he asked me out over phone and the next time I saw him I ended it. So I wouldn't class him as a relationship. I wouldn't class Liam as a relationship when I was 11 and he got all creepy, but I had no emotional attachment to him, nor did we do anything, I don't think I even hugged him.
However Tom, Chris, another Ryan and Paul (my current boyfriend) I would say that I had a relationship with all of them. However some were more important than others, I am still no way near defining what a relationship is clear enough. I guess relationships are just complicated.
